Guide for Parents and Carers

Game Features

  1. Message in a Bottle

    A challenge has washed up in a bottle Each day, a new bottle arrives on the island. In it is carried a quest that your character can choose to carry out. These quests all relate to interactions with the loved one if they are still alive, and more generally the recording of digital memories, so that the user curates a beautiful treasure chest of memories that they can check back in with whenever they wish to. One quest, for example, will be to ask the loved one to record what their single most important piece of advice would be for you.

  2. The Big Question

    Rocks containing a perspective on the big quesition What happens when someone dies? There are many different perspectives on this big question. We are going to provide users with some different perspectives, as well as a space for them to record their own thoughts. The user will find rocks around the island which they can break open with a hammer. Inside the rock is a gem which will reveal one perspective on death. The user can keep this perspective in their notebook for future reference if they find it helpful.

    • Nature

      Everything in nature that is alive – from trees and plants, to fish, birds, insects, cats, dogs and even human beings - will some day die. How long something lives for depends partly on what kind of a thing it is, and partly on what happens to it. Did you know that there’s a type of worm called a gastrotrich that only lives for three days? While some whales and fish can live for more than 200 years. Even more amazingly, there’s a pine tree in California known as Methuselah and its almost 5,000 years old. That’s 608,750 times longer than a gastrotich!

      When things die, their body becomes the energy that allows other life to grow. You can see this in the leaves on a tree. In spring they emerge all green and full of life, and in autumn they lose their colour and fall to the ground, turning into soil so that other life can grow.

      When someone we love is dying or has died, we can feel very sad because of what that person means to us and what we will miss about them when they are gone. But it can help to know that, just like the insects, the fish, the birds, and the trees, even the leaves on the trees, we are a part of nature, and that when we die our bodies go back into the earth and provide energy so that other life can grow.

    • Great Mystery

      Human beings are the only creatures on earth that are aware we will one day die. This special knowledge we humans have is sometimes hard to cope with, because it can create a lot of fear. We are afraid because we don’t know what happens to us when we die.

      For some people, not knowing what happens when we die is OK. For some people, death is the Great Mystery. These people celebrate this mystery, because it allows us to feel a sense of awe and wonder, like we do sometimes when we look up into the night sky and see millions of stars – some of which are 1500 times bigger than our own sun, but appear to us as just a small, bright dot in the sky.

    • Ancestral Spirits

      In many indigenous cultures – like the Cree Native American tribe - when someone dies their spirit passes into another dimension where they join with the ancestors of that tribe. These ancestors have a new life in this dimension and still have the ability to influence the lives of the people in the tribe, guiding and protecting the tribe from harm.

      People within these cultures often feel their ancestors looking down on them from the moon or the stars or experience their presence in a gentle breeze. By keeping our ancestors in our lives, and experiencing their presence in the world around us, we can learn from their wisdom and guidance.

    • Buddhist Perspective

      Buddhists – more than 500 million people worldwide - believe in a cycle of death and rebirth that they call ‘samsara’. This means that depending on our actions in this lifetime, we can be reborn in a different realm of existence.

      For Buddhists, being born in the human realm is very positive, as humans have the chance through their good deeds to get completely free from suffering, become enlightened (nirvana) and escape the cycle of death and rebirth completely.

      Some Buddhists meditate on death because they believe that facing up to the fact we will all one day die can help us to wake up and live the best possible life, full of kindness for our self and others.

    • Islamic Perspective

      In the Qur’an – the Islamic holy book - death is described as being exactly like sleeping – people even dream in death. In the same way that a person does not cease to exist in sleep, similarly we don’t cease to exist in death. Islam views death merely as a stage in human existence.

      Muslims believe that physical death should not be feared and are encouraged to think about death throughout their lives. In the Sufi form of Islam, they believe its important to ‘die before you die’, which means letting go of any negative patterns of behavior and acting with kindness so our selfish bits ‘die off’.

    • Christian Perspective

      Christians believe there is an afterlife. Although the body dies and is buried or cremated, they believe that a unique soul lives on and is raised to a new life by God.

      Some Christians believe in there being 3 different places the soul can go after death: heaven, hell, or purgatory. Where someone goes depends on whether they have done good deeds in their own life. Purgatory is a kind of in between place where a person’s soul gets purified before they go to heaven.

      In one monastery of Trappist monks, the monks dig a grave. Every day the monks go out to stand and look at the grave. When one of their brothers dies, he’s put in the grave, and then a new grave is dug. They do this because they believe that remembering that life is short and precious helps us to spend each day wisely.

    • Hindu Perspective

      There are some one billion Hindus in the world – many believe that when we die our souls are reincarnated. We can be reborn as a human, an animal, an insect, or even a plant.

      What we are reborn as depends on our ‘karma’ – our actions in this lifetime. This means that all of us are reborn when we die, living out new and different lives.

      Hindus believe that living a good life – such as practicing non-violence or vegetarianism – is the best route to good ‘karma’. After living many lifetimes, we can be released from the cycle of rebirth and achieve liberation (‘moksha’).

    • Jewish Perspective

      Judaism believes that when someone is born a soul – ‘nefesh’ – comes into their body and animates the body. This soul leaves the body when someone dies.

      This means that death is not the end of our existence - and some schools of Judaism believe in heaven – a paradise where we can hang out with the souls of our loved ones who have died before us.

      In Judaism, when someone dies all windows are covered up in the house of the family mourning. This is to stop too much negativity entering into the space.

  3. The Cave

    The inside of the cave, a mysterious place for exploring emotions and stories Here the user will find a number of fireflies that they can catch with their net. When they catch a firefly, the cave will light up in that colour. Each firefly represents a different emotion or feeling. The user will learn about the different feelings people can experience when someone they love is dying. They will also learn self-care strategies to help manage these feelings. As they catch fireflies, they also being to find a variety of stories hidden in the rocks. These are audio recordings from other young people who have been through something similar to them.

    • Angry

      Anger can be a really powerful emotion that burns inside. People often feel anger in their throat or chest. Sometimes we might feel like hurting someone or even hurting ourself. When someone close to us has a life-limiting illness, its very normal to feel frustrated, resentful, furious even. You might feel angry that something bad has happened to someone you care about, angry because you don’t know how much longer they will be alive, angry at yourself for not doing more to help, you might even feel angry at the doctors or even at your parent who is ill. If you are feeling really angry, it really helps to use this energy in physical exercise or speaking to someone you can trust.

      Tips for when you’re feeling really Angry:
      1. Remember that feelings come and go, like the weather.

      2. Stand up and stretch while letting out an audible sigh.

      3. Exaggerate and change your facial expressions.

      4. Walk over to a window where there is sunlight.

      5. Do 10 jumping jacks, press-ups, or sit-ups. Repeat if necessary

      6. Massage the back of your neck.

      7. Go to the waterpool for some deep breathing and meditation.

      8. Acceptance: if we let go of the idea that we can control everything that happens in our life and accept the things then we can’t change, we can find peace even in very difficult times.

      9. Write down what lesson there is for you in this feeling.

      10. Talk to someone you can trust.

      11. If you are really struggling, and don’t have anyone you feel you can speak to, ring Childline

    • Confused

      It’s easy to feel confused when a parent has a life-limiting illness. Sometimes we are confused because we don’t know enough about things and other times we are confused because there is too much to take in and understand. The uncertainty can be excruciating, and we can feel disoriented, like nothing fits any more. Write down a list of things you are confused about, organise your questions according to their importance, and talk to your parents or others who can help you with some answers. Don’t overload yourself by trying to get all the answers in one go - do it in chunks. And know that its ok not to know.

      Tips for when you’re feeling really Confused:
      1. Remember that feelings come and go, like the weather.

      2. Write down a list of things you are confused about, organise your questions according to their importance, and talk to your parents or others who can help you with some answers.

      3. Don’t overload yourself by trying to get all the answers in one go - do it in chunks.

      4. Know that its ok not to know.

      5. Connect with a good friend: spending time with a good friend really helps.

      6. Do 10 jumping jacks, press-ups, or sit-ups. Repeat if necessary

      7. Go to the waterpool for some meditation.

      8. Write down what lesson there is for you in this feeling.

      9. Acceptance: if we let go of the idea that we can control everything that happens in our life and accept the things then we can’t change, we can find peace even in very difficult times.

      10. Talk to someone you can trust.

      11. If you are really struggling, and don’t have anyone you feel you can speak to, ring Childline

    • Sad

      It’s completely natural to feel sad when life is rough. Sadness shows that we care. And people express sadness in different ways. Some may cry a lot, some may talk a lot, others may hold their sadness inside. Some people put on a brave face and pretend to be happy. Sadness can feel like a choking in the throat or a heaviness in the chest area. All these reactions are perfectly normal. If you do feel like crying let yourself cry. It’s a way of our body releasing stress in a difficult situation.

      Tips for when you’re feeling really Sad:
      1. Cry: its really good to cry, especially if we are feeling sad. It’s a way of our body releasing stress in a difficult situation.

      2. Laugh! Find someone to laugh with. Watch a movie that you find extremely funny.

      3. Connect with a good friend: spending time with a good friend really helps.

      4. Do 10 jumping jacks, press-ups, or sit-ups. Repeat if necessary

      5. Go to the waterpool for some meditation.

      6. Write down what lesson there is for you in this feeling.

      7. Acceptance: if we let go of the idea that we can control everything that happens in our life and accept the things then we can’t change, we can find peace even in very difficult times.

      8. Talk to someone you can trust.

      9. If you are really struggling, and don’t have anyone you feel you can speak to, ring Childline

    • Numb

      When we feel numb its like we can’t feel anything much at all. Sometimes this is a way that our bodies protect us from feelings that may feel too strong to feel all in one go. Sometimes we might beat ourselves up for not feeling anything. Its perfectly normal to feel numb. Know that everyone responds to situations in a different way, and there isn’t really a right or wrong. It can help to do something that makes you feel alive – go into nature, or move your body around.

      Tips for when you’re feeling really Numb:
      1. Remember that feelings come and go, like the weather.

      2. Find a hobby that excites you. Do something that makes you feel alive – dance, sing, go for a run, go into nature.

      3. Know that it is ok to feel numb.

      4. Connect with a good friend: spending time with a good friend really helps.

      5. Do 10 jumping jacks, press-ups, or sit-ups. Repeat if necessary

      6. Go to the waterpool for some meditation.

      7. Write down what lesson there is for you in this feeling.

      8. Talk to someone you can trust.

      9. Acceptance: if we let go of the idea that we can control everything that happens in our life and accept the things then we can’t change, we can find peace even in very difficult times.

      10. If you are really struggling, and don’t have anyone you feel you can speak to, ring Childline

    • Overwhelmed

      When someone we love has a life-limiting illness, we can have a feeling that this is all too much. There are lots of big changes happening, lots of big questions without easy answers. We can feel so overwhelmed that we might feel like just crawling into a hole and hiding away from it all. It can really help to spend time in nature. You will appreciate how effortlessly things seem to happen in nature.

      Tips for when you’re feeling really Overwhelmed:
      1. Remember that feelings come and go, like the weather.

      2. Spend time in nature. Appreciate how effortlessly things seem to happen in nature.

      3. Ask yourself: what is the one most important thing for me to do next? This question helps to clarify.

      4. Connect with a good friend: spending time with a good friend really helps.

      5. Do 10 jumping jacks, press-ups, or sit-ups. Repeat if necessary

      6. Go to the waterpool for some meditation.

      7. Write down what lesson there is for you in this feeling.

      8. Acceptance: if we let go of the idea that we can control everything that happens in our life and accept the things then we can’t change, we can find peace even in very difficult times.

      9. Talk to someone you can trust.

      10. If you are really struggling, and don’t have anyone you feel you can speak to, ring [Childline](https://www.childline.org.uk/get-support/1-2-1-counsellor-chat.

    • Shocked

      When there is a sudden change in our life, like finding out someone we love has a life-limiting illness, our bodies can go into shock. We might feel physical symptoms like sweating, feeling thirsty, irregular breathing, numbness, or feeling sick. We probably are struggling to believe the news we have just heard. The reality of this news may just feel too much for us to bear. Its really important that you give yourself time to look after your self. It can take time to thoughts and feelings to settle. Try to do something relaxing, like a nice long bath, or a walk in nature.

      Tips for when you’re feeling really Shocked:
      1. Remember that feelings come and go, like the weather.

      2. Give yourself time: its really important to look after yourself when life is rough, and there has been some difficult news. Give yourself time to let all your thoughts and feelings settle.

      3. Breathe deep. Breathe out for twice as long as you breathe in.

      4. Connect with a good friend: spending time with a good friend really helps.

      5. Do 10 jumping jacks, press-ups, or sit-ups. Repeat if necessary

      6. Go to the waterpool for some meditation.

      7. Write down what lesson there is for you in this feeling.

      8. Talk to someone you can trust.

      9. Acceptance: if we let go of the idea that we can control everything that happens in our life and accept the things then we can’t change, we can find peace even in very difficult times.

      10. If you are really struggling, and don’t have anyone you feel you can speak to, ring Childline

    • Afraid

      The biggest fear most people have is of people close to them dying, or of dying themselves. We can be really scared that a person might not be around for much longer. We might be afraid of what we will do without them. We might be afraid someone else we love might get ill and die too, or we might be scared of our own death and not knowing what happens when we die. How anxious you feel will probably change at different times - one day it’s like a big lump in your tummy all the time, but the next day you might feel much more relaxed. It can really help to be curious and kind with your fear. When you look at your fears with curiosity, acceptance, and kindness they are often not as scary as they seem from a distance.

      Tips for when you’re feeling really Afraid:
      1. Remember that feelings come and go, like the weather.

      2. Try to change your perspective from time to time and see other angles of the same situation, it could be that behind the first impression of fear, there is love ready for you to discover

      3. Get Curious: when you look at your fears with curiosity and acceptance they are often not as scary as they seem from a distance.

      4. Get writing: write down your fears in a journal and this often realy helps to get them off our chest.

      5. Do 10 jumping jacks, press-ups, or sit-ups. Repeat if necessary

      6. Go to the waterpool for some meditation.

      7. Write down what lesson there is for you in this feeling.

      8. Acceptance: if we let go of the idea that we can control everything that happens in our life and accept the things then we can’t change, we can find peace even in very difficult times.

      9. Talk to someone you can trust.

      10. If you are really struggling, and don’t have anyone you feel you can speak to, ring Childline

    • Positive

      Even though we may have had what seems to be bad news, sometimes we might find a way to be positive. We might focus on spending really good time with the person who is ill. We might find hope by using this moment to make big changes in our own life. Sometimes we might just naturally feel happy or joyful, and we don’t know why. It can be easy to beat yourself up for feeling happy, but there is nothing wrong whatsoever with having positive feelings during difficult times in your life. Embrace them.

      Tips for when you’re feeling really Positive:
      1. Remember that feelings come and go, like the weather.

      2. Allow your self to feel positive. There is nothing wrong with this. You have my permission to sing and dance

      3. Make this feeling an anchor, treasure this memory, something you can come back whenever you need a boost.

      4. Go to the waterpool for some meditation.

      5. Write down what lesson there is for you in this feeling.

      6. Talk to someone you can trust.

      7. Acceptance: if we let go of the idea that we can control everything that happens in our life and accept the things then we can’t change, we can find peace even in very difficult times.

      8. If you are really struggling, and don’t have anyone you feel you can speak to, ring Childline

    • Guilty

      We often feel guilty if we feel or say or do things we don’t think we should have felt, said, or done. We might feel regret for not having been the best person we can be in a situation. Often people feel like it is somehow their fault that a person has got a serious illness. Sometimes people can feel relieved when someone is dying or died, and they might beat themselves up for feeling this. Sometimes, especially if we have a difficult relationship with that person, we might even wish them dead and feel guilty about that too. Know that all these feelings are very normal. Sometimes it helps to something worthwhile you have been putting off and that will help you to feel better about yourself.

      Tips for when you’re feeling really Guilty:
      1. Remember that feelings come and go, like the weather.

      2. Take Action: often we feel guilty because we are not doing something we know we should. So do something worthwhile you have been putting off and you will feel better about yourself.

      3. Apologise: Its never too late to apologise to a person, even if its just to yourself, for not living up to your expectations. Apologising gives you a chance to start again.

      4. Remember that nobody is perfect.

      5. Connect with a good friend: spending time with a good friend really helps.

      6. Do 10 jumping jacks, press-ups, or sit-ups. Repeat if necessary

      7. Go to the waterpool for some meditation.

      8. Remember that feelings come and go, like the weather.

      9. Write down what lesson there is for you in this feeling.

      10. Acceptance: if we let go of the idea that we can control everything that happens in our life and accept the things then we can’t change, we can find peace even in very difficult times.

      11. If you are really struggling, and don’t have anyone you feel you can speak to, ring Childline

    • Lonely

      Most likely very few of your friends have been through what you are going through now. So its understandable to feel isolated, like no-one else gets it. You might even feel like no-one cares about you right now too. If possible, it really can help to be honest with someone you can trust. Sharing our honest feelings helps to overcome loneliness.

      Tips for when you’re feeling really Lonely:
      1. Remember that feelings come and go, like the weather.

      2. Open up: be honest with someone you can trust. Sharing our honest feelings helps to overcome loneliness

      3. Remember you are not alone. Even if the people in your life leave you feeling lonely, know that there are higher forces in the universe that have your back.

      4. Connect with a good friend: spending time with a good friend really helps.

      5. Do 10 jumping jacks, press-ups, or sit-ups. Repeat if necessary

      6. Go to the waterpool for some meditation.

      7. Remember that feelings come and go, like the weather.

      8. Write down what lesson there is for you in this feeling.

      9. Acceptance: if we let go of the idea that we can control everything that happens in our life and accept the things then we can’t change, we can find peace even in very difficult times.

      10. Talk to someone you can trust.

      11. If you are really struggling, and don’t have anyone you feel you can speak to, ring Childline

    • Despairing

      Despair is a strong feeling that can feel like there is a permanent dark cloud hanging over us, and the sun has disappeared for along time. It is common to feel hopeless when someone you love has a life-limiting illness. Its like all the meaning of life has suddenly vanished, like there is no point to anything any more. When we are feeling despair we might turn to destructive behaviours like drinking, taking drugs, hurting ourself or others in various ways. The antidote to despair is hope. The best way to find hope in a difficult situation is to know that all our life circumstances are given to us so we can learn and grow from them, especially the painful ones. How might you grow from this situation?

      Tips for when you’re feeling really Despairing:
      1. Remember that feelings come and go, like the weather.

      2. Look for the beauty in things: a ray of light, a flower growing through a crack in the pavement, a smile on a child’s face.

      3. Find hope: the antidote to despair is hope. The best way to find hope in a difficult situation is to know that all our life circumstances are given to us so we can learn and grow from them, especially the painful ones. How might you grow from this situation?

      4. Connect with a good friend: spending time with a good friend really helps.

      5. Do 10 jumping jacks, press-ups, or sit-ups. Repeat if necessary

      6. Go to the waterpool for some meditation.

      7. Talk to someone you can trust.

      8. Acceptance: if we let go of the idea that we can control everything that happens in our life and accept the things then we can’t change, we can find peace even in very difficult times.

      9. If you are really struggling, and don’t have anyone you feel you can speak to, ring Childline

  4. The Waterpool

    Your character, standing beside a pool of water A quiet, peaceful place on the island where your character can go to check-in and find some inner peace. There will be some guided meditations that will help the user feel more grounded in their body.

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